June 1st as a Turning Point

from WomenforWealth.com Founders, Christine Harvey and Liz Uible

Happy June first! What does a new month mean to us?

What will you do with this month to make it different from the rest? What will you do to look back and say, June 1^st changed my life?

Well here’s a suggestion. Dr Wayne Dyer says that most people think that their happiness is NOT in their control. They think that circumstances create their state of happiness.

I know that for most of you that is not true. I know that you know that you can control your state, and that happiness is in your control. BUT, here’s the critical question: HOW MUCH do you actively work on your mental state minute by minute? How often do you stop to ask yourself what state you’re in – ESPECIALLY WHEN THE GOING IS TOUGH!

Knowing is one thing, doing is another.
On our member call last Wednesday, as a prelude to looking at our unique abilities, we discussed the Focus Tip on Emotional States, which we’ve copied for you below.

One member talked about a family situation, and the negative dip she found herself in. She decided to examine her state and see which rung of the ladder she was on. No surprise there! She discovered she was in a depressed state of feeling victimized. Immediately upon realizing that, she pictured the rungs of the ladder in her mind, and decided she could easily change her state to irritated. From there she was able to put the scenario into perspective and move to a positive state. Voila – her life was immediately transformed. Her slump was gone, unlike the times we have when we drag these things into hours or days. Or in some families it can be weeks and years! In some countries, it can be generations.

When is enough, enough? What can you do as leaders to change this? What can you do, not only for yourselves, but for the others around you? First and foremost you can lead by example? Soon people will be asking you, “Barbara, what’s different about you?” You’ll be attracting different people into your life. While you are in your new state of calm, new ideas will come to you and your whole prosperity consciousness will change. Why not do that for ourselves and for others as leaders, this first day of June, 2007.

Dr Dyer points out that most people let themselves get dragged by events from one victimized state to another. First it’s the traffic, then it’s the colleague, then it’s the boss, or the project or the customer. “The only road to joy,” he says, “is taking control and responsibility over your own state of mind.”

Tony Robbins points out that we can change our state anytime we want. In fact, by asking yourself what state you are in, your mind shifts from the emotional side to the logical side, and you’ve broken the grip on the negative state.

ONE MINUTE FOCUS TIP: So let’s make June 1st the turning point of our lives – truly, once and for all. Let’s decide today, as Dyer suggests, to NEVER LET OURSELVES BE DRAGGED DOWN BY CIRCUMSTANCES. Let’s use the rung of the ladder technique as follows:

First - identify your state, tell yourself what rung of the ladder you are on.

Second – picture the ladder in your mind, and see which rung you can jump up to. Can you go from depression to anger? That’s pretty easy. Anger gives relief from depression. Once you’ve jumped a few rungs, you can jump more.

Please write and tell us your experiences so that we can share them with others.

All the best,

Christine and Liz

PS For your review, here’s the list of the rungs of the emotional ladder in italics below, in order from high to low:

Joy/Love/Freedom/Appreciation
Positive Expectation
Optimism
Hopefulness
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Pessimism
Irritation
Feeling Overwhelmed
Blame
Anger
Revenge
Rage
Depression/Fear/Despair/Powerlessness/Grief