Thought of the Day: Nothing is Certain

“ … The only thing certain in life, is that nothing is certain.”

What do you love about your life today? Give it gratitude and more will be manifested!

The Power of Celebration and Recognition

from Christine Harvey

What can we learn from female CEO’s? Since 1991, Julia Stewart has worked her way up to Chairman and CEO of the restaurant chain of IHOP. She remembers back to working for a previous company where she made it a habit to RECOGNIZE management trainees when they completed their training with a celebration and a small gift. On one occasion, an employee’s mother broke down in tears over this reward for her son. To her it was HOPE that her son would break out of their tough neighborhood, and move on to a better life.

When I read this, I thought of all the lectures I’ve given around the world, and the comments people have made to me after my speeches. It lead me to this question for us today – Isn’t that what we all want - to move on to a better life? Isn’t this true, regardless of our economic status? It’s the nature of humanity to HOPE for improvement in our lives.

But the question for us is, WHAT CAN WE DO TO CREATE THIS for ourselves and others today? How about taking a leaf from Julia Stewart? What if we paid more attention to recognizing each other for small achievements and for celebrating achievements of ourselves and others? How do we know that we wouldn’t touch, move, and inspire others, as Julia did with her employee’s mother? How do we know we wouldn’t bring hope for a changed life to our own family member? Or to our own employee or spouse or ourselves?

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Today, as you go about your day, take a few seconds to think about a recent accomplishment of your own. How can you celebrate that accomplishment? Why not celebration today? Later as you go about your day, THINK OF ANY PERSON in your life. What accomplishment, small or large, have they had recently? How can you acknowledge them for that? A few words are all you need. As you learn to do this, your leadership will grow. Your self-esteem will increase. Your own life will soar. Think of what Julia Stewart did. Her acknowledgement brought HOPE for them to break out of their current situation and MOVE ON TO A BETTER LIFE. Your words and thoughts can do the same for you and for others today! Don’t delay. Try it and see what results you get through these actions.

Thought of the day - How to Change What You Attract

“ … LIKE A MAGNET, YOU ARE ATTRACTING thoughts, people, events, lifestyles.” But, if you want things to be different, they suggest this … “As you see things AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE, you attract them AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE.”

From ‘Ask and It Is Given,’ by Esther and Jerry Hicks

How to be Irresistible

from Christine Harvey

Often we talk about how important it is to develop an awareness of how we project ourselves and what ‘vibrational’ energy we are putting out. Why? The answer is simply – it’s because we attract the SAME back. So if we’re oozing out optimism for our life and our future, we will attract positive people to help us along that journey. If, on the other hand, we allow ourselves to be in a slump – a state of ‘oh how awful IT is’ - whatever that IT might be at that moment – we’ll attract like minded negativity to us. And, the downward spiral will continue.

Now let’s notch it up – let’s look at the Billionaire Mindset, and search out the ESSENTIAL ground floor platform of thinking. What ONE thing can we do today and everyday that will set the stage for ‘positivity’ to flow into our minds. This ‘positivity’ could be in the form of prosperity or goodness or tranquility, peace of mind, gratitude, relationships, health – WHATEVER YOU WANT AND NEED TODAY. What one thing can we do to open us to receiving the messages we need to receive TODAY?

Here’s an answer from Albert Einstein. He tried to get a Ph.D. but his professors didn’t think he was good enough! The empowering mindset Einstein kept was that “I was born to create something great.” What if you let yourself step out of the way for a moment? What IF you stop taking ‘credit’ for your own being on this earth for a moment, and just trust that you are here for a reason? Isn’t it possible that EACH ONE OF US was born to create something great?

What if every morning you awoke with SUCH EXCITEMENT for the possibilities of what you might be guided to create? Isn’t it possible, that in that open state of mind, you might actually be able to create new thoughts, new visions, new possibilities for yourself and those around you?

Here’s your 3 SECOND FOCUS TIP for Billionaire Mindset Building today. The first time today that something unexpected comes into your day, STOP. Don’t react. Before your mind gets a chance to attach any negative reaction to it, STOP and say, “Hum, I wonder what POSSIBILITY this holds?” Then be still. LISTEN and grasp the FIRST creative answer that comes to you. Jot it down.

You WERE born to create something special, and this mind-set shift will lead you to it, give you a sense of satisfaction and inner peace.

OVERCOMING THE IMPOSSIBLE

From Christine Harvey

A friend told me this story. For four years he wanted a job transfer, AND he wanted his employer to pay his moving expenses.

Everyone he talked to TOLD HIM IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE because of his job category and the rules under which he was hired. Still he held onto hope. Not a day went by that he didn’t think about it. He continued to ask the experts in personnel, and NO ONE GAVE HIM HOPE. On day a new boss came along and changed his job category. Then he studied the rules ONE MORE TIME and found an exception to the rule under which he was hired. Within 12 months he had his transfer, to a job in which he could really excel, AND his employer was required to pay his moving expenses.

What if he had listened to the people around him? What if he had listened to the ‘experts?’ If he had taken their opinions at face value, he would not have been open to the new job, nor would he have studied the rules one more time. He’d still be in that old job he hated.

Many years ago my husband and I had a dream of going to Europe to live and work. The first friends we told our dream to, laughed in our face. I’m not kidding. They were nice people, they were upwardly mobile, and we felt safe telling them our seemingly wild dream. I remember feeling stunned and taken aback. But we held onto our dream. We tried for 12 years to find a way to move there and finally our opportunity came. We ended up living there for many years, and in the process I started my own export consultancy, which lead to becoming an international management consultancy. In addition, I was elected Chair of a London Chamber of Commerce, the first woman and first American to hold that distinction. I was also able to travel throughout Europe and Asia with my management training company, and I became the author of 6 books sold in 25 languages under 48 different publishers globally.

What if I had dropped my dream the minute the first person laughed in my face about it? Sometimes it’s necessary to change your support group. It’s ALWAYS NECESSARY TO FOLLOW THE DREAM YOU SEE FOR YOURSELF.

Another friend of mine decided at age 30 that her friends were too negative. She explained to them that she loved them, but she needed more positive support in her life. She then sought new friends who were of positive nature. Eventually she became Vice President of an international agency with 13 offices she oversaw around the world. She puts much of her success down to that decision to surround herself with people who could see her potential.

What about you? Are YOU SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO CAN SEE YOUR POTENTIAL?

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Today, look around you. Listen to how people speak to you about your potential. Listen to how you support them. If it’s negative, think about the changes you need to make in order to reach YOUR FULL POTENTIAL. The world needs you to be operating in that sphere, so TAKE YOURSELF SERIOUSLY.

Consider this. If you, or people you care about need more support in this area, TAKE POSITIVE ACTION. It’s not too late to join our membership calls and learn ways you can achieve what you know in your heart to be right for you. Just go to www.WomenforWealth.com/wbsc.htm
AND be sure to forward this on to people you care about. It will make a difference.

This article is written by Christine Harvey, author of 6 leadership books sold in 25 languages, by 48 publishers including ‘Your Pursuit of Profit,’ ‘Secrets of the World’s Top Sales Performers’ and ‘Can a Girl Run for President?’

From Christine Harvey and Liz Uible, Founders of WomenForWealth.com and WomenForWealth.com Foundation

A friend told me this story. For four years he wanted a job transfer, AND he wanted his employer to pay his moving expenses.

Everyone he talked to TOLD HIM IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE because of his job category and the rules under which he was hired. Still he held onto hope. Not a day went by that he didn’t think about it. He continued to ask the experts in personnel, and NO ONE GAVE HIM HOPE. On day a new boss came along and changed his job category. Then he studied the rules ONE MORE TIME and found an exception to the rule under which he was hired. Within 12 months he had his transfer, to a job in which he could really excel, AND his employer was required to pay his moving expenses.

What if he had listened to the people around him? What if he had listened to the ‘experts?’ If he had taken their opinions at face value, he would not have been open to the new job, nor would he have studied the rules one more time. He’d still be in that old job he hated.

Many years ago my husband and I had a dream of going to Europe to live and work. The first friends we told our dream to, laughed in our face. I’m not kidding. They were nice people, they were upwardly mobile, and we felt safe telling them our seemingly wild dream. I remember feeling stunned and taken aback. But we held onto our dream. We tried for 12 years to find a way to move there and finally our opportunity came. We ended up living there for many years, and in the process I started my own export consultancy, which lead to becoming an international management consultancy. In addition, I was elected Chair of a London Chamber of Commerce, the first woman and first American to hold that distinction. I was also able to travel throughout Europe and Asia with my management training company, and I became the author of 6 books sold in 25 languages under 48 different publishers globally.

What if I had dropped my dream the minute the first person laughed in my face about it? Sometimes it’s necessary to change your support group. It’s ALWAYS NECESSARY TO FOLLOW THE DREAM YOU SEE FOR YOURSELF.

Another friend of mine decided at age 30 that her friends were too negative. She explained to them that she loved them, but she needed more positive support in her life. She then sought new friends who were of positive nature. Eventually she became Vice President of an international agency with 13 offices she oversaw around the world. She puts much of her success down to that decision to surround herself with people who could see her potential.

What about you? Are YOU SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO CAN SEE YOUR POTENTIAL?

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Today, look around you. Listen to how people speak to you about your potential. Listen to how you support them. If it’s negative, think about the changes you need to make in order to reach YOUR FULL POTENTIAL. The world needs you to be operating in that sphere, so TAKE YOURSELF SERIOUSLY.

Consider this. If you, or people you care about need more support in this area, TAKE POSITIVE ACTION. It’s not too late to join our membership calls and learn ways you can achieve what you know in your heart to be right for you. Just go to www.WomenforWealth.com/wbsc.htm
AND be sure to forward this on to people you care about. It will make a difference.

This article is written by Christine Harvey, author of 6 leadership books sold in 25 languages, by 48 publishers including ‘Your Pursuit of Profit,’ ‘Secrets of the World’s Top Sales Performers’ and ‘Can a Girl Run for President?’

Self Image Expansion

from Christine Harvey

Self image - where does that really come from? Think back to your youth and ask yourself who you had for role models. Think of your teachers, your relatives, your neighbors and your parents' friends.

If you're a woman, did you have female role models who did the unusual - who worked confidently in the man's world? If so, you probably gave yourself permission to step outside the box. You took the sides off the box and broadened your self image.
Self image, stemming from role modeling, affects women dramatically more than men.

Men have male role models around them on a daily basis for almost every possible job. Women still don't. The reason I gave my woman's leadership book this name –Can a Girl Run for President? - is that a little 10 year old girl raised her hand during a class election, and asked her teacher, "Miss Smith, can a girl run for President of the United States?" I was horrified to think, that in this day and age, a girl would have to ask that question. But then I stopped to think of the research on female role modeling. Statistics show how important it is for women to see other women in a role, in order to believe it is possible for them. And that belief is a very strong basis of self image.

Here's the reverse in action. A true story, reported on BBC news in England... A little five year old girl was sitting with her mother watching the evening news. Suddenly their TV screen featured a man taking office as the new Prime Minister, in a hand over from Margaret Thatcher. The little girl exclaimed to her mother, "But Mommy, isn't Prime Minister a WOMAN'S JOB!"

The truth is, if a person thinks that even one role is outside their limits, then they question every role. Inner stereotyping and inner limitations start to disintegrate. Self image, and belief about what’s possible for them, is increasingly in question.

Think again about your youth. What occurred? I was fortunate growing up... My father took me with him one Saturday to see a friend. I remember my complete surprise and shock when I met the friend's wife. Why? Because she was building a gorgeous brick fireplace in their living room. I stood there in amazement - "A woman can do that? Wow," my little five year old mind said!!! (Up until then I had only seen my father and other men doing those jobs.) And, at that instant my mind concluded that if a woman can build a fireplace, they must be able to do anything! Thus, my self image options took an expansive leap!

3 Second FOCUS TIP - Take a moment now to reflect on YOUR SELF IMAGE EXPANSION. Are there functions that you can't imagine yourself doing? How about speaking in front of 10,000 people? No, why not? It's simply because you didn't have a role model growing up who did that. Few people you knew did that. On the other hand, if your mother had been Prime Minister, or President, you would take that form of leadership, as a normal course of activity. So what else don't you picture doing?

Do you realize that by having limiting self images, you are holding your talent back from the world? You're holding your ideas back. You're holding yourself back! And in the process of holding yourself back, you are limiting the self image of women and girls around you. Ask yourself what action you can take today, to step outside your normal box, and immediately expand you self image.

When the opportunity presents itself (and it will,) step forward. Try this and you'll be amazed at your results and self image.

Thought of the day: Commitment Brings Gold to Your Door

“ … Rich people are COMMITTED to being rich. Poor people WANT to be rich.”

From ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,’ by T. Harv Eker

A Life Changing Key to Success

from Christine Harvey

I picked up a copy of ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’ from my book case this morning. To my surprise, I found notes in it to myself about the author’s writing style. It took my memories back to the time I was writing my first book, ’In Pursuit of Profit,’ and wanted to copy the style of the most successful author I could find. That particular book by Dale Carnegie, had sold 6,000,000 copies! I remember thinking, “What better model could I have?” My notes showed how often he used italicized font, how often he indented, how many paragraphs he had per page, and how easy they were to read. The techniques worked - my own book succeeded in gaining the second highest monetary advance in the history of the publishing company, and to be a best seller in 8 languages. From then on, I’ve been convinced that ‘mimicking the successful’ is one of the life-changing keys to success.

Have you ever thought about asking people you respect how they do what they do? When I interviewed many of the world’s top sales people for my second book called ‘Secrets of the World’s Top Sales Performers,’ I was amazed to discover that this seldom happens. These top achievers told me that they were never questioned by their company or their colleagues about HOW THEY ACHIEVED THEIR SUCCESS. “What a wasted opportunity!” I remember thinking how powerful it would be for everyone to learn these techniques. And yet, these top achievers were SO willing and raring to talk about these principles that they had worked so hard to master in their lifetimes!

So now we come to you. Who do you know in your life who has a skill or life principle that you admire? Why not talk to them about it? For example, you may admire a colleague’s courage in speaking up. By saying, “Say Mary, I’ve often noticed and admired how you speak out at meetings, and I wonder how you have the courage to do that. What is your mindset that allows you to do that? I’d like to learn from you, if you don’t mind sharing!” I guarantee that Mary will be delighted to share. By asking her, she’ll feel complimented and acknowledged by you.

3 Second Focus Tip – Think now, who do you admire for a certain trait or skill? What is that exactly, and how would you use it in your life? What results could you possible achieve with that skill as part of your tool box for life? These questions will motivate you to talk with the person. Now, thin k of a time and a place you can talk with the person. Will you do it over lunch in a relaxed atmosphere? Are they in another town, and you’ll call and have a chat? Or, maybe a stranger you admire. What approach might you make? Take these 3 seconds to decide who and what, then add it to your agenda for today. Try this and write to me with YOUR results at ChristineHarvey@WomenForWealth.com. I’m counting on you to be everything you can be for the world!

This article is written by Christine Harvey, author of 6 leadership books sold in 25 languages, by 48 publishers including ‘Your Pursuit of Profit,’ ‘Secrets of the World’s Top Sales Performers’ and ‘Can a Girl Run for President?’

Thought of the day: Your Money Blueprint

“ … Do you TRULY FEEL YOU DESERVE WEALTH? What is your ability to act in spite of fear, … worry, … inconvenience, … discomfort?”

Answer that, and you’ll know your money blueprint.

From ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,’ by T. Harv Eker

Connecting with Our Inner Spirit

from Christine Harvey

Yesterday someone asked me how she could feel more centered, more connected to her spirit, more confident in her talents. How could she feel less disjointed, and less pulled in all directions?

Here was my answer. Some years ago a colleague of mine in England was running a metaphysical healing program and invited me to attend. I was amazed when he brought a woman up to the front who was migraine sufferer and asked her if she was willing to bring on her migraine as an experiment! “Don’t worry,” he said, “we’ll make it go away too.”

As she proceeded to bring on her migraine, he asked her “What is your inner voice saying to you?” She reflected, then replied that it was telling her, “This is terrible – you have company coming, you can’t afford to be sick now!” That seemed to make sense to all of us in the group. We could all relate to an inner voice like that.

But next my colleague did something that shocked me. He asked her, “Now tell us what your OTHER VOICE is telling you.”

My instant reaction was this: “Your ‘other voice!’ What in the world could THAT be?” I’d never heard that we have a second voice. Just as I was asking myself if it could be true, the woman proceeded to tell us that her other voice was saying, “This is good – you need a rest anyway. You’ve been working too hard recently.” We could immediately see the opposing views of these two voices. It felt like an inner struggle of some sort.

Well, I had no reason to doubt that woman on that day, as she was so genuine. Years later I read in the book called ‘The Course in Miracles,’ about our two inner voices. One they attribute to the ego, whose sole purpose is to keep us off balance in life, and the other they attribute to our pure ‘knowing self.’ They talk about the inner struggle between these two voices and suggest that the sooner we learn to differentiate between the two voices, and listen to the pure knowing self, the sooner we’ll feel inner stability.

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP- Let your mind do a balancing test right now. Where do you feel on a scale of 1-10 in your inner tranquility? If you are feeling completely tranquil, you’re probably listening to your pure inner voice right now. If you are feeling a bit pulled in all directions, you are probably feeling the pull of the two inner voices. Start today, as suggested in ‘The Course in Miracles,’ to differentiate between the two voices. Start to feel connected to the pure voice – the one that comes from the love for humanity. Ignore the one that likes to make you feel doubtful and off balance. Do this every time you feel off balance, unsure, or lacking in confidence about your abilities. Practice this constantly and before long you’ll have developed the muscle of connecting with your spirit, and then you can go to it constantly. Try this and see YOUR results.

Thought of the day: Withdraw Positives from the Memory Bank

With regard to confidence and wealth building alike…

…” the cure comes when one learns to quit drawing negatives from one’s memory bank and withdraws positives instead.”


From ‘The Magic of Thinking Big’ by David Schwartz, Ph.D.

Is There An Entrepreneur in You?

from Christine Harvey

Two questions I’m asked continually are “What kind of business should I start?” and “How do I know I can succeed?”

Whether I answer a reader of my book $14.95 book, In Pursuit of Profit, or a member of our Advanced Women’s Wealth Building Institute who has bought an $800 ‘Take The Leap – Commercial Real Estate Investing Curriculum,’ the answer is always the same.

There are 3 CRITICAL components to consider…

First, what is YOUR PERSONALITY and what kind of business suits that personality. I’ve seen hundreds of entrepreneurs create a business that they ended up hating, simply because they did not consider their own personality thoroughly enough. Then they felt stuck - often worse than they did working for someone else! Ask yourself: Can you stand the hours required? Are you a people person, and is this a people business? Does it require extensive selling (most businesses do,) and do you know how to sell, and more importantly, do your like selling? An excellent tool for determining your personality and work style preferences is the Kolbe Profile. You can do it on-line for a reasonable price and get immediate results. You can even test your prospective employees and see how their profile matches or detracts from yours.

Mr. Morita, founder of the Sony Corporation, said that ‘ideas are a dime a dozen.’ The mistake would-be business owners make is to think that they need a good idea in order to be rich. That’s false. In ‘The Millionaire Next Door,’ research shows that millionaire business owner are people who run a standard business, but do it better or with a unique twist to it. So stop looking for a good idea, and ask yourself what fits your personality in terms of a business, and then set out to do it better or differently.

Second, COUNT THE MONEY in advance. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve met in audiences I’ve addressed around the world who neglected this step. What do I mean by ‘Count the Money?’ It’s simple. Add up all the expenses, then add up how many products you think you can sell a day. Get your monthly totals on both and then you’ll find out if there is a profit potential – AND whether there is enough money left for you to have a salary! You would be surprised how many people have a serious hobby instead of a profit. I even had a doctor tell me that he had a $40,000 a year hobby. He explained that instead of retiring, he cut his patient load. But since he couldn’t cut his office, staff or insurance costs, running his practice was costing HIM $40,000. But he loved his patients and his practice, and felt it was worth it. Well, that a conscious decision. I want to make sure that if YOU run into the red, you are doing it on purpose, not because you didn’t do your numbers.

Now, let’s look at what needs to be included in your numbers.

Expenses will include rent, light, heat, insurance, tax, advertising, paper, pens, staff, loss if in retail or the food business, etc. Income includes the price for which you sell each item or service, MINUS the cost of goods that you are producing or reselling.

Let’s say that your rent and expenses are $1000 per month. Let’s also say that you are selling only cups of coffee, to keep it simple. If each cup was sold for $2, and the cost of the paper cup and coffee $1, then you would need to sell how many cups of coffee to break even? The answer is 1000 cups of coffee.

Now that you have that answer, let’s see how many cups you need to sell each day. A 30 day month would yield 300 cups per day. Does that seem reasonable to you for the location? If each person buys one cup, you’ll need 300 people per day entering your shop. And that’s before you add a salary in for yourself. You get the idea.

You can work the numbers any way you want – you can add your salary in from the beginning of your calculations. You can be open 20 days a month instead of thirty. The important thing is to Count the Money BEFORE you sign the lease or quit your day job. You might be reading this and thinking, ‘What kind of a numbskull would start a business without doing these numbers?’ The answer is: the vast majority. It’s easy to get swept up in the emotion and imagine all the fun and independence you’ll have. And don’t get sidetracked by the coffee example. Even if you are selling multi-million dollar aerospace systems, you still have to ‘count the money,’ and compare actual sales to budget if you are to stay in the game.

Third, but equally important, is MULTIPLE INCOME POTENTIAL: Does this business give you the ability to multiply your income from the time and talent you invest? In other words, if you write a book, that’s a one time effort. But every time that book sells, you make money. One effort, multiple chunks of income. That’s leverage.

Compare that to selling hot dogs. One hot dog sold, one chunk of income… Unless you can make a special hot dog process and sell the PROCESS to
many people. That’s basically what McDonald’s does and any chain does. They get an idea and create a process and sell the process.

Why is this important? I’ll tell you why. If you create a business that just ‘make one thing, sell one thing,’ without any chance for multiple chunks of income, you’ll be creating a job for yourself, in which you are the owner. As the owner, many entrepreneurs burn out. They feel even more tied down than working for someone else. Why? Because they can’t quit. They can’t walk out the door and forget it. They have rent to pay, they have customers to serve, employees to pay.

While having your own business is tremendous for personal growth – it challenges all you abilities and thrusts you into being an accountant, a production manager, a sales person, a marketing guru – it’s not necessarily the ‘heaven on earth’ you first dreamt of when you visualized ‘freedom’ along with being a business owner.

So, how do you decide what kind of business to start, and if you will succeed? Ask yourself this: Does my personality fit the business, will it cash flow, and does it offer leverage? If you can answer yes to all three, you have a good chance. If not, don’t give up. Instead look around and choose a business that does answer yes to all three. Years later, you’ll be happy you did!

About your author:

Christine Harvey, is Author, Speaker and Businesswoman with six business books published in over 25 languages by 48 different publishers. Her book In Pursuit of Profit hit the international best seller list in eight countries, making her a well-known figure in European and Asian capitals. Many autographed copies of her various books - which started with an original purchase price of $15, are now in the hands of collectors who are purchasing them for over $100 per copy.

Having spent 23 years in Europe, Christine Harvey created several international businesses including Intrinsic Marketing, a management training and consulting company. Clients include Sony, IBM, and other blue chip companies. She has become a sought after speaker at conferences around the world, including those organized by The Institute of Directors in London, The Australian Institute of Management, The Singapore Institute of Management, The British Institute of Management. Her programs have been licensed by the Nanyang Technological Institute in Asia, and others globally. In Eastern Europe, over 40,000 people have been trained in her management systems. She was the first American, following the President of the United States, to be invited to address the Parliament of Czechoslovakia following the fall of communism. Her speech focused on the ‘privatization of industry and the transition to capitalism,’ allowing her to spread success principles globally.

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Thought of the Day- What Chance Awaits You?

“ … The person who takes no chances generally has to take whatever is left when others are through choosing!”
WHAT CHANCE AWAITS YOU TODAY?

From ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill

Thought of the Day- What will you Feed Your Mind?

“ … The subconscious mind makes no distinction between constructive and destructive thought impulses. It works with the material we feed it.”
What will you feed your mind today?

From ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill

How to Handle the Negative Behavior of Others

from Christine Harvey

A university age woman wrote to me recently asking this: “How do I stop my best friend from treating me badly? Normally she is wonderful, but when she’s in a ‘slump,’ she takes it out on me.”

Here’s the formula I passed on to her…
1. Sit down with the person and say that you want to set a time to talk about something important to your relationship.
2. When the time comes to chat, which could be immediately, start by reiterating your reason for the discussion, i.e. that the relationship is important to you. This sets the scene and shows that you care.
3. Next, say that because this subject is so important to you, you would like them to repeat your points back to you when you are finished.
4. Now, you’ll cover 3 things - the behavior you want stopped, the replacement behavior, and ask for their agreement to change: “Mary when you yelled at me about the place we when to dinner yesterday, I was very hurt. In the future, I want you to speak to me calmly about anything that disturbs you.
5. Now you ask them to repeat it back to you, and wait while they do it.
6. Next ask, “Are you willing to do that?” (If they are not willing to do that, you compromise on a behavior that is acceptable to you both.)
7. Now you ask them for the reason they behaved badly, and NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY, you respond with ‘nevertheless, I want you to do xyz.’ For example, you ask your friend, “Mary, why DID you shout at me about the place we went to dinner?” Mary responds: “You know, I’m still suffering from my break-up with John and I’m edgy all the time.” Then you say, “Nevertheless, I want you to speak to me calmly about anything that upsets you.”
8. Finally you thank the person for their openness and willingness to work with you to make this important relationship even stronger.

This method was passed on to me some time ago, and works like magic. Why not use it to work magic in your life? With the energy you free up from this, you can devote to your prosperity consciousness and to making the world a better place.

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Take 3 seconds to think of any unfinished business in any of your relationships, and determine to give yourself time to resolve it today. When that time comes, draft out the easy steps above, for your unresolved issue. You can do it in your mind or on paper. Now picture yourself sitting with the person, and having the discussion with great positive results. Feel how wonderful you feel to have that issue resolved and off your chest. Feel the pleasure of tapping the courage within you to do that so easily. I promise you, you’ll be proud of your results. Try it and see.


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Thought of the Day: Opportunity Spreads Its Wears Before You

" … OPPORTUNITY HAS SPREAD ITS WARES BEFORE YOU. Step up to the front, select what you want, create your plan, put the plan into action, and follow through with persistence." The universe will do the rest for you.

From ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill

Determining You Own Self Worth

By Christine Harvey

When I was in college, I had a professor of psychology named Dr. Lui. She asked us a question that changed my life. She said, “I want you all to think about this, and give me an answer. What percentage of your own self worth is based on what other people think of you? And what percentage is based on what you think of yourself?”

Then she paused to wait for answers. Of course the responses ranged the whole gambit. It really made me think. Up until then, I had never given the subject any thought. I guess I had assumed that my value was based on what other people thought. After all as we grow up, our parents and teachers are always guiding us in what to do and not do. We learn to lean on their opinions, and even to reflect on our self worth through our perception of their opinion.

I reflected on this question for some time. It came to plague me. After all, WHAT IS SELF WORTH, I asked myself. Surely it has to be OUR opinion of ourselves, otherwise it is not SELF worth. It would then be someone else’s opinion of our worth.

As I’ve gone through life, I’ve been so grateful to Dr.Lui for bringing that distinction to our attention. I’ve seen so many people plagued with low self worth, because they are relying on someone else’s opinion of themselves – their spouse, their colleagues, their friends, even their kids! They haven’t stopped to think that their own SELF worth belongs to them, not to someone else. In fact Terry Cole-Whittaker wrote a book called, ‘What You Think of Me is None of My Business,’ acknowledging the extent of this dilemma.

3 SECOND – Ask yourself the same question now: “WHAT PERCENTAGE OF MY SELF WORTH IS BASED ON OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINION?” If the percentage is high, you are putting your self worth and the stability of your emotional state at risk. Decide now to recapture your own self worth by realizing that you are the ONLY person who can determine that. And if you know someone plagued by this, ask them to consider the same question. Or have a focus tip mastermind session, and share these ideas. YOU CAN SUPPORT EACH OTHER IN RECLAIMING YOUR DESTINY. Try this and see YOUR results.

Thought of the day: Nothing is Certain

“ … The only thing certain in life, is that nothing is certain.”

What do you love about your life today? Give it gratitude and more will be manifested!

Your results may inspire and motivate others! Let us know by leaving a comment!

Thought of the day: How to Change What You Attract

“ … LIKE A MAGNET, YOU ARE ATTRACTING thoughts, people, events, lifestyles.” But, if you want things to be different, they suggest this … “As you see things AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE, you attract them AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE.”

From ‘Ask and It Is Given,’ by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Change Your Self Talk for the Better

from Christine Harvey

Yesterday, I had the good fortune of reconnecting with a friend of mine, David Brooks, while in Austin, Texas. David had the distinction of being the 1990 World Champion Toastmaster. Since then, David has coached five subsequent World Champions in Toastmasters, a very highly acclaimed title achieved through numerous levels of speaking competitions with thousands of Toastmasters from countries around the entire globe.

In his book ‘The Seven Strategies of Master Presenters,’ written with Dr. Brad McRae, one segment jumped out at me immediately. It’s perfect for those of us interested in raising our self esteem, or raising the self esteem of someone important in our lives or our business. Brooks and McRae say, “Most adults don’t fully realize what they say to themselves or how it influences their behavior.” And their results, of course!

I’VE SEEN SO MANY TALENTED PEOPLE WASTE THEIR POTENTIAL DUE TO NEGATIVE SELF TALK. Don’t let this happen to you! Instead, do as these authors recommend – learn to convert three types of negative self talk to three types of positive self talk, as follows.

Change talk which is irrelevant to talk which is task relevant. Instead of “I hate this career,” say, “I have one hour to work. What do I want to accomplish?”

Change talk which is self-depreciating to talk which is self-appreciating. Instead of “I never could do this,” say, “I worked well this morning.”

Change talk which is task-depreciating to talk which is task-appreciating. Instead of “There are no opportunities here, why knock myself out doing a good job?” say, “Being able to do a good job gives me more opportunities in the future.”

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Commit to watching yourself talk today. WHEN YOU CATCH YOURSELF SAYING ANYTHING NEGATIVE TO YOURSELF, STOP! Make it a game. Say ‘cancel, cancel.’ Then replace it with a positive example, as above. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes in your day. Do this everyday, and you’ll be amazed at what it does to heighten your health, wealth, and happiness. No kidding. Some things in life are that easy, AND BRING HUGE RESULTS. If it seems too simple, think twice. Try this and see YOUR results.