The Number One Relationship Buster

by Christine Harvey

Last night I was reading some university research. It said that the number one killer of relationships is ‘avoidance of discussing problems.’ It doesn’t matter whether it’s an intimate relationship or a relationship between friends and colleagues. It still holds true - that we increase the chances of killing the relationship if we hold back from discussing problems as we see them. The ‘problem’ could be as simple as a ‘feeling’ we have, or an ‘assumption’ we make about what the other person means, or an outright ‘disagreement.’

When I read that, it immediately brought to mind a discussion I had with my business partner, Liz Uible, last week. We were talking about how dangerous it is to ‘sweep disagreements under the rug.’ I was telling her my feeling that a major problem in marriages is just that. So many issues get swept under the rug, because WE HUMANS LIKE TO AVOID CERTAIN HOT BUTTONS we know exist between us as couples. Yet, over the years, as each issue is NOT discussed and is instead SWEPT UNDER THE RUG, the pile under the rug gets bigger and bigger. Pretty soon we start to trip over the pile under the rug and it undermines our whole relationship. And that’s what the research was basically proving.

So what the antidote? THE FORMULA, according to the university research, is as follows.
First, go to the person and invite them to pick a time that works for both of you to talk about the issue. State that the relationship is of paramount importance, and you know there must be a win-win solution.
Second, DO NOT go in with your own solution. The solution must be created between the two of you.
Third, get a ‘buy-in’ from the other person that they wish to talk and resolve it too. Don’t continue to talk without the buy-in agreement. If they immediately want to start talking, say, “Yes, we can talk now if you wish. Are you saying you want to resolve this together then?” Thus you solicit their buy-in.
Fourth, don’t be afraid of emotions – theirs or yours. When you begin to talk, they or you may find yourselves telling stoies of hurt or distress, and it may seem repetitious. You can let the stories repeat for a couple of rounds, but then say, “Let’s move on now to some possible solutions.”

One of the most interesting things for me in the research is that most problems have an 80% chance of having a win-win solution, AND YET MOST PEOPLE DON’T ENTER PROBLEM SOLVING WITH THIS ATTITUDE. Instead they enter it with the attitude of, “If you win, I must lose.” That surprised me because I’ve never had a win-lose mentality. I’ve always felt there is enough to go around for everyone. I may have had fear around discussing problems, but that’s been based on not having a blue print to follow. If that’s been true for you too, we can both now follow this blue print.

In Landmark Education, a worldwide organization focusing on personal and inter-personal development, one of the major lessons I learned was the importance of being ‘fully self-expressed.’ If we sweep things under the rug, we create NO OPPORTUNITY to express our views, and those feelings get stuffed down inside of us, becoming NOT ONLY THE MAJOR CAUSE OF RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP, but also the major cause of health problems. Or as Dr. Simonton, the renowned cancer specialist says, pent up resentment stemming from not expressing oneself, is a leading cause of cancer. So whether it’s the cancer of the relationship or the cancer of the body, we need to eliminate it, AND DO IT NOW.

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Determine now who you will approach in a new way, with an issue using the FORMULA above. You can select even a small issue to get you started, something that just niggles you. Liz and I make it a habit to HONOR EACH OTHERS NIGGLES. In fact, we’ve created a ‘plus system.’ If either of us doesn’t feel right about an issue, we tell each other. That then becomes AN OPPORTUNITY TO PLUS, meaning that we see it as an opportunity to FIND A HIGHER AND BETTER SOLUTION.

When we first started this system, early in our business relationship, we saw it immediately as gold. By being on the alert for ‘niggles,’ we are able to look for multiple ways to find higher and better solutions, which being joy to us, and prosperity to our clients! Well, that’s pretty hard to beat, isn’t it? Every time I do it with Liz in my business partnership, I’m inspired to do the same with my husband in our marriage! I can’t even begin to tell you what a difference this makes in life compared to not expressing ones self. - Why not try it and see what it can do for you too!

Try this and let us know YOUR results!

Thought of the day: Don't Take the Poison

“ … Being unforgiving is like taking poison yourself and expecting the other person to die.”

Sent to us by one of our international members

For more on this subject, see THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS From Christine Harvey

Overcoming the Impossible

from Christine Harvey

A friend told me this story. For four years he wanted a job transfer, AND he wanted his employer to pay his moving expenses.

Everyone he talked to TOLD HIM IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE because of his job category and the rules under which he was hired. Still he held onto hope. Not a day went by that he didn’t think about it. He continued to ask the experts in personnel, and NO ON GAVE HIM HOPE. On day a new boss came along and changed his job category. Then he studied the rules ONE MORE TIME and found an exception to the rule under which he was hired. Within 12 months he had his transfer, to a job in which he could really excel, AND his employer was required to pay his moving expenses.

What if he had listened to the people around him? What if he had listened to the ‘experts?’ If he had taken their opinions at face value, he would not have been open to the new job, nor would he have studied the rules one more time. He’d still be in that old job he hated.

Many years ago my husband and I had a dream of going to Europe to live and work. The first friends we told our dream to, laughed in our face. I’m not kidding. They were nice people, they were upwardly mobile, and we felt safe telling them our seemingly wild dream. I remember feeling stunned and taken aback. But we held onto our dream. We tried for 12 years to find a way to move there and finally our opportunity came. We ended up living there for many years, and in the process I started my own export consultancy which lead to becoming an international management consultancy. In addition, I was elected Chair of a London Chamber of Commerce, the first woman and first American to hold that distinction. I was also able to travel throughout Europe and Asia with my management training company, and I became the author of 6 books sold in 25 languages under 48 different publishers globally.

What if I had dropped my dream the minute the first person laughed in my face about it? Sometimes it necessary to change your support group. It’s ALWAYS NECESSARY TO FOLLOW THE DREAM YOU SEE FOR YOURSELF.

Another friend of mine decided at age 30 that her friends were too negative. She explained to them that she loved them, but she needed more positive support in her life. She then sought new friends who were of positive nature. Eventually she became Vice President of an international agency with 13 offices she oversaw around the world. She puts much of her success down to that decision to surround herself with people who could see her potential.

What about you? Are YOU SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO CAN SEE YOUR POTENTIAL?

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Today, look around you. Listen to how people speak to you about your potential. Listen to how you support them. If it’s negative, think about the changes you need to make in order to reach YOUR FULL POTENTIAL. The world needs you to be operating in that sphere, so TAKE YOURSELF SERIOUSLY.

Consider this. If you, or people you care about need more support in this area, TAKE POSITIVE ACTION. What do you think about that?

WomenForWealth.com … ‘Empowering The World, One Woman At a Time.’

Traits of World Class Achievers

from Christine Harvey

Shortly after my first book, ‘In Pursuit of Profit,’ was published in London, I was invited to a grand event hosted by Richard Branson of Virgin Airlines, now Sir Richard Branson. We were on the top floor of a palatial building in London at a party he threw to announce some of his new ventures. I was with a friend of mine, Hilde Bartlett, who would later receive an award presented to her by him as Business Woman of the Year in Great Britain.

Like so many of the world class achievers I’ve met and interviewed, Branson showed his entrepreneurial skills VERY EARLY in life. In secondary school, he was orchestrating friends his age to create newsletters which they sold for a profit.

As a speaker myself, I had often been faced with how to handle large crowds that amass, with everyone wanting to say a few words to me. After being introduced to him, I was interesting in watching the way he handled persistent people who wanted to monopolize his conversation. Branson had developed a unique way of pivoting on his heels from left side to right side, such that he could talk to one person or group for a few minutes, then swivel instantly to the other side to catch another person or group. It left no doubt in the mind of the first group, that their time with him was finished.

I’ve never seen anyone do that, before or since, but it was certainly effective for Branson, who constantly had people handing him envelops with business ventures they hoped to pursue with him, or funding requests for their projects. These envelopes, he handed off to a colleague standing nearby. I could hear the high hopes and anticipation in their voices as they presented their projects at this social affair - their one chance to get to Branson personally. While not all of the envelopes turn into joint ventures, Branson like many Billionaires is able to parlay his wealth building through collaboration with others.

While even in college, his newsletter business had become a substantial money making venture. The marketing expertise he gained, and working with others, would stand him in good stead for his coming years as a controversial wealth creator.

Prior to starting his airline, he was best known for starting his chain of music stores around England. “How can a music store owner succeed at starting an airline?” asked most Brits as Branson launched Virgin Airlines, undercut his competitors, and lead the field in equipping passengers with individual state of the art video screens and head sets before others could even imagine it.

The public expressed similar disbelief when Branson announced his spacecraft collaborative venture in Oshkosh, Wisconsin in July 2005, then set about offering flights into space starting at $200,000. “We hope to bring the price of the flights down over time,” said Branson!

And this collaborative expertise lives on. As of 2008, he has plans for China, partnering with others to launch a chain of hotels and health clubs. “For any business these days, it is madness to not be involved in China,” says Branson.

He also plans to launch a cell phone service in China, called Virgin Mobile. Cell phones themselves are a sensitive subject for Branson. Many years ago one of his best friends died from a brain tumor, which in a televised program Branson attributed to the use of his cell phone. X-rays of the brain were shown on that program with the placement of the tumor around the ear where the cell phone was held. In one scene, Branson was seen using his own cell phone, but with deliberate use of a head set while the phone itself was strategically placed on the seat next to him, not touching his body.

So what traits can we glean from Richard Branson, should we aim for the billionaire ranks ourselves?

For sure, the use of collaborative ventures. It’s important to run with the ideas of others and let others take the lead while engaging one’s own strengths, as Branson does by using his well honed marketing skills and business growth skills. Also, it’s important to guard one’s time, as Branson does at events, and to have a system of delegation for standard procedures as he has with meeting crowds and handing off the business idea envelopes.

Why not think of your ventures, no matter how large or small, and decide which of these habits you can incorporate in your business now? When you do, perhaps you’ll be on the road to your next venture, be it in China or in the air!

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All of our members will be getting together by phone to support each other in our individual goals. So don’t miss out.

Get back in touch with the real dreams and abilities you know you have!

That’s Monday, Feb 26th!!! (5:30 PST or 8:30 EST) As soon as you register, you’ll get an email auto response with the call in number and access code

DISCOVER HUGE POSSIBILITIES FOR YOUR LIFE
You can participate by sharing your goals, or you can just listen to the Mastermind process we use. Either way, it will be a huge help to you in climbing out of the dull-drums that occasionally creep up, and start to see HUGE POSSIBILITIES FOR YOUR LIFE. No matter where you are at this moment, there’s way more potential for you to reap.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LIKE MINDED POWERFUL WOMEN
We’ll be quoting from great books and personal experiences. You’ll hear the Founders of WomenForWealth.com, Christine Harvey and Liz Uible, share success principles, and learn how to manifest YOUR goals. Most of all, as one member said, “I’m so grateful to be around like-minded powerful women.” There seems to be so much power connected with being in a new group that sees you for what you are today, and for your true potential. Having people believe in you is a pricelist gift. It’s not always available in the people we see daily, and sometimes we have to move into new circles to make our new goals and visions come true. The old adage seems true: “Make new friends and keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold.” We’re definitely going for the gold with this group. As another member said, “Just hearing the reassuring voices of our Founders, puts me in touch with my own inner core of beliefs again. Sometimes we get thrown off course and it feels so good to come back in touch with what I know to be true.”

WHEN… So join us for our Mastermind on Monday, Feb 26th!!! (5:30 PST – 8:30 EST) As soon as you register, you’ll get the call in number and access code.

HOW… Just go to www.WomenforWealth.com/wbsc.htm

FORMAT OF MONDAY’S MASTERMIND CALL FOR MEMBERS ONLY: (Sign up at the above link to become a member)

Start: 5:30 Pacific Standard Time (8:30 Eastern) … Hear the Founders of WomenForWealth.com, Christine Harvey and Liz Uible, share success principles
Next: 5:50 PST (8:50 Eastern) …‘YOUR TIME’ – Focus on you and your goals, input and ideas from others (Have a goal ready that you want help on.)
Raising the bar: 6:15 PST – (9:15 Eastern) … Preparation for March, the coming month of manifesting your highest!
Finish: 6:30 PST – (9:30 Eastern) … Leave the call with new aspirations and knowledge of your own possibilities

See you then!!! That’s Monday, Feb 26th!!! (Starting time for the call is 5:30 PST or 8:30 EST) As soon as you register, you’ll get an email auto response with the call in number and access code. Give it a try, we guarantee your satisfaction. Just go to www.WomenforWealth.com/wbsc.htm

Focus Tip: The Power of Forgiveness

from Christine Harvey

Have you ever wondered about how to achieve the power of forgiveness?

Gerald Jampolsky tells about a woman whose son was accidentally killed by a drunken young man, in his book 'One Person Can Make a Difference.' For years the woman did everything she could to keep this man from being released from prison. Then she discovered that she was destroying herself through this hate and bitterness. Her hair was falling out, her gall bladder had problems, and she was plagued by skin rash. "The hate inside of me was attacking my own body," she said.

"Somehow I began to know inside of me that if I was to survive, forgiveness was not an option but a necessity," she continued. "I couldn't live the rest of my life with pain and anger. I chose not to do it anymore." Instead she chose to talk with him about how it occurred, and what conditions he faced at the time of the accident. "Then I could see him as a person who made a serious mistake, but was also a caring, sensitive and vulnerable person."

As Jampolsky witnessed this remarkable forgiveness, this thought occurred to him. "If this woman could forgive someone who murdered her son, then the rest of us ought to be able to heal whatever unhealed relationships we are holding onto."

Instantly as Jampolsky had that thought, a picture jumped into his mind of a person he knew who he still resented. "Suddenly, without my doing anything, I felt a sense of total compassion and love towards this person, that was beyond anything I could have imagined," he said.

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP: Let your mind jump now to a person you still feel resentment toward. Reflect as Jampolsky did. If this woman could forgive, why not GIVE YOURSELF THE OPPORTUNITY to let forgiveness fill your heart too? Remember, you are doing it for yourself - and the world will be a better place for this action.

Jampolsky says that our egos want us to believe two things that are unsound. One is to hold onto our resentments forever. The other untruth is that if we forgive, we will be hurt again. Don't let this happen to you. The world needs you in your full glory and unreserved love for humanity and yourself! Try to let go today, and see what happens FOR YOU.

The Power of Celebration and Recognition

by Christine Harvey

What can we learn from female CEO’s? Since 1991, Julia Stewart has worked her way up to Chairman and CEO of the restaurant chain of IHOP. She remembers back to working for a previous company where she made it a habit to RECOGNIZE management trainees when they completed their training with a celebration and a small gift. On one occasion, an employee’s mother broke down in tears over this reward for her son. To her it was HOPE that her son would break out of their tough neighborhood, and move on to a better life.

When I read this, I thought of all the lectures I’ve given around the world, and the comments people have made to me after my speeches. It lead me to this question for us today – Isn’t that what we all want - to move on to a better life? Isn’t this true, regardless of our economic status? It’s the nature of humanity to HOPE for improvement in our lives.

But the question for us is, WHAT CAN WE DO TO CREATE THIS for ourselves and others today? How about taking a leaf from Julia Stewart? What if we paid more attention to recognizing each other for small achievements and for celebrating achievements of ourselves and others? How do we know that we wouldn’t touch, move, and inspire others, as Julia did with her employee’s mother? How do we know we wouldn’t bring hope for a changed life to our own family member? Or to our own employee or spouse or ourselves?

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Today, as you go about your day, take a few seconds to think about a recent accomplishment of your own. How can you celebrate that accomplishment? Why not celebration today? Later as you go about your day, THINK OF ANY PERSON in your life. What accomplishment, small or large, have they had recently? How can you acknowledge them for that?

A few words are all you need. As you learn to do this, your leadership abilities will grow. Your self esteem will increase. Your own life will soar. Think of what Julia Stewart did. Her acknowledgment brought HOPE for them to break out of their current situation and MOVE ON TO A BETTER LIFE. Your words and thoughts can do the same for you and for others today! Don’t delay. Try it and see what results you get through these actions.

Opening the Channel for Receiving

from Christine Harvey

Esther Hicks talks about a fascinating and powerful process of 'Virtual Reality' in her book, 'Ask and It Is Given.' As an example, she suggests you think of being on a gorgeous white sandy beach, the temperature is wonderful, you're running barefooted with a feeling of freedom, you have your 5 year old granddaughter with you who is so excited collecting sea shells, then she looks up at you and says, "Grammie, I'm so happy we're here. Thank you for bringing us here." And you say, "You're most welcome, sweetie. I love being here with you." The point is to pick any situation in which you would find delight.

"This exercise of 'Virtual Reality' will help you train yourself to feel better most of the time," says Hicks. "And, like the working of a muscle, the more you do it, the better it works for you," she says. She also reminds us that we live in a Vibrational Universe, and all things are managed by the law of attraction. When we are operating in the 'virtual reality' mindset, we are OPENING THE CHANNEL FOR RECEIVING that which we desire to come into our lives.

30 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Stop what you are doing now and take 30 seconds to do this: Imagine a scene that's gorgeous. Put yourself in it. Feel yourself walking there. Look around. See the people you most want to be with. Hear yourself talking with them. Feel the feeling of exhilaration, of joy. Breath in and enjoy it! Or maybe if you are seeking tranquility, you are alone in this beautiful place. Feel the joy of being there. Of relaxing. Of complete and utter tranquility. Let yourself REALLY feel that inner peace and tranquility. Remember you are opening the channel for receiving.

Try this and let us know YOUR results.

The 'Time' Part of the Law of Attraction

by Liz Uible

As I was searching on-line yesterday for the 2^nd Oprah episode on the Secret, I ran across several other interviews with the cast of “The Secret.”

In one of them, James Allen Ray talks about the 3 steps to the Law of Attraction:

1)Focus on exactly what you want

2)Gestation period or TIME

3)Take action and receive

This reminds me of a how important TIME is.

I remember a great conversation I had with a student who was just in the beginning stages of creating her life consciously. She generous and kind, and wanted more true friendships in her life. So I told her about the three steps all farmers know about reaping a harvest:

1) First you plant seed

2) Then you wait for the seed to grow into plants

3) Then you can harvest the crop.

First you sow friendship. “How about spending 30 minutes in a nursing home being friendly to people who have lost many of their friends” I asked her? “Why not be the kind of friend YOU want for the friends you already have?” So she started to do these things.

But nothing happened for a while. She got frustrated and started digging up the seeds to see why they weren’t growing. And that was a problem. She wasn’t giving them the time it takes for them to grow, to go from seed to harvest. This second step takes Faith. She took a look and realized that in shifting your thoughts and actions, sometimes it takes time to grow into a result. Now she has lots of friends and is experimenting with creating other things in her life.

I used to hear this wisdom mistakenly as two steps “Seed Time” and “Harvest.” Someone had to point out to me that creating the life you want, like growing a crop, is done in three steps, not two. “Seed,” “Time” and “Harvest.” Are each distinct and important. Be careful not to go digging up the seeds to see what is happening under the dirt. We have to have Faith that something is indeed growing under there.

Oprah on The Secret- The Law of Attraction

By Liz Uible

I have been spending much of today working on tracking down the Oprah video for the episode that aired yesterday on “The Secret- Reactions One Week Later,” which aired 2/16/07. Not having a TV, I rely on the internet to get my pop culture.

In addition to Oprah, I have seen 'The Secret' on Ellen and even an episode of Larry King in which he interviews some of the cast from The Secret. I have not yet seen yesterday's "reaction" episode. Luckily, Oprah has a written summary of the show on her site. And I got my hands on the first episode which aired 2/8/07.

What I am impressed with about all of the interviews with the cast is the common sense approach this truly is. What we think about creates who we are. What your thoughts dwell on today creates your future tomorrow. It is so simple! And in fact, it is NOT a secret. This is something we have been taught for over 2000 years. Maybe we just forget easily.

In 1965, Napoleon Hill wrote in The Master Key to Riches, “any thought held in the mind through repetition, begins immediately to translate itself into its physical equivalent.” In other words What we think about today creates our reality tomorrow.

As a Man Thinketh is a book written over 100 years ago. In it James Allen writes “As a plant springs from and could not be without the seeds, so every act of man springs from a hidden thought and could not have appeared without them.” In other words, What we thought about yesterday (and last year) creates who we are today.

And here is the doosey:
In the New Testament, Jesus says “I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” (Mathew 17:10) In other words: Our thoughts, combined with faith create our reality.

I am left thinking about this last quote. A mustard seed is one of the smallest seeds. It is tiny! So if we dwell on the tiniest of thoughts and truly have faith, we can literally change any "reality" in our lives. That is pretty exciting.

'The Secret' to Creating your Life on Purpose

from Christine Harvey

Often we talk about how important it is to develop an awareness of how we project ourselves and what ‘vibrational’ energy we are putting out. Why? The answer is simply – it’s because we attract the SAME back. So if we’re oozing out optimism for our life and our future, we will attract positive people to help us along that journey. If, on the other hand, we allow ourselves to be in a slump – a state of ‘oh how awful IT is’ - whatever that IT might be at that moment – we’ll attract like minded negativity to us. And, the downward spiral will continue.

Now let’s notch it up – let’s look at the Billionaire Mindset, and search out the ESSENTIAL ground floor platform of thinking. What ONE thing can we do today and everyday that will set the stage for ‘positivity’ to flow into our minds. This ‘positivity’ could be in the form of prosperity or goodness or tranquility, peace of mind, gratitude, relationships, health – WHATEVER YOU WANT AND NEED TODAY. What one thing can we do to open us to receiving the messages we need to receive TODAY?

Here’s an answer from Albert Einstein. He tried to get a Ph.D. but his professors didn’t think he was good enough! The empowering mindset Einstein kept was that “I was born to create something great.” What if you let yourself step out of the way for a moment? What IF you stop taking ‘credit’ for your own being on this earth for a moment, and just trust that you are here for a reason? Isn’t it possible that EACH ONE OF US was born to create something great?

What if every morning you awoke with SUCH EXCITEMENT for the possibilities of what you might be guided to create? Isn’t it possible, that in that open state of mind, you might actually be able to create new thoughts, new visions, new possibilities for yourself and those around you?

Here’s your 3 SECOND FOCUS TIP for Billionaire Mindset Building today. The first time today that something unexpected comes into your day, STOP. Don’t react. Before your mind gets a chance to attach any negative reaction to it, STOP and say, “Hum, I wonder what POSSIBILITY this holds?” Then be still. LISTEN and grasp the FIRST creative answer comes to you. Jot it down.

You WERE born to create something special, and this mind-set shift will lead you to it, give you a sense of satisfaction and inner peace.

The Miracle of Mental Joy

by Christine Harvey

Have you ever stopped to wonder why it takes so long sometimes to achieve a goal, and other times it happens so quickly? This was the subject of our first 'Member Only Call' last Friday, and I want to share the results with you. It was determined that: "The length of time it takes for us to achieve a goal, is simply the time it takes us to believe we can have it!"

You can even look at it another way. I heard this said by Richard Rogers of Unity some years ago and I've been pondering it even since. He said, "Everything we want is ALREADY there. The moment we believe it is there is the moment we can receive it." Think about how that applies to your life. What have you been wanting in your life, and NOT YET receiving? Could it be that you don't fully believe it's possible for YOU to have it? Think about it again. What if it was THAT EASY? What IF, all it would take, is for YOU to fully believe it was here now, and feel that excitement of having it already? Would it be worth that small amount of effort? That effort of simply mental thought – mental thought that you can do while you walk and while you talk? HOW EASY IS THAT? And yet we give it mental resistance!

30 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Today, concentrate on one specific goal AS IF it was already in existence. Be excited about it. Let the feeling go to the tips of your toes and the top of your head. Let it circulate with excitement, like a kid in a candy store. Let yourself feel the joy and pleasure of that feeling. Try it many times in the day. I promise you, that the experience will bring you much joy, and in the course of these miracles of joy, you WILL manifest. Look at it this way – what have you got to lose!ental attitude for success, and later we are moving on to business creation methods.

Try this 30 second focus tip and let us know what happens.

Creating Life 'On Purpose'

By Christine Harvey

In our 'member only call' last Friday, I talked about the results I've had in Creating a Miracle, the subject of last week's articles. In those articles I told about Sue Dyer, the nationally known mediator, and her advice to us. She recommended reviewing the day as we fall asleep, looking for the miracle in each and every event. For Sue, a miracle is A CHANGE IN PERSPECTIVE. That definition alone gave us pause for thought. Not a new car in the driveway, not a miracle diet with 20 pounds lost instantly – but A CHANGE IN PERSPECTIVE! Some of us wondered, "Why is a change in perspective, a miracle?"

From that day forward I set out to find out for myself. Sue said, "I never have a day without a miracle, when I start my day by asking for one!" That seemed motivating to me, and so I tried it. Every night I examined my day, event by event, looking for the miracle in it. And each day I DID see a change in my perspective. I saw things from a more positive viewpoint. I saw new angles that had not occurred to me before. AND I HAD INFINITELY MORE JOY IN MY LIFE. But here's the real miracle. After only 2 nights of these reviews, guess what happened? I actually started to see the miracle AS IT HAPPENED, rather than waiting until my nightly review!

Well, you might ask, "So what?" The 'what' is that seeing the miracle AS IT HAPPENS brings you joy NOW. Lynn Grabhorn says in her book, 'Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting,' that "Feeling good means positive energy is flowing to us, through us and from us, and we're creating on purpose." Isn't that what we all want – to create on purpose? To not let our lives be on auto pilot, sometimes good and sometimes bad? No, what we want is for life to ALWAYS be as good as WE CAN MAKE IT.

30 SECOND FOCUS TIP – As you fall asleep tonight, review each event of the day – and LOOK for the miracle in that event. Turn it around in your mind as you would turn a beach ball in your hands. Look at it from different angles, by looking for 'the miracle' in it; you'll have a new perspective. That new perspective will bring you joy and that joy will lead you to CREATING life on purpose, the life of your dreams. Thank you Sue, for sharing with us!

By the way, if you would like to be part of our 'Member Only" program, with calls, support and Wealth Building curriculum, you still have time to join. Simply go to www.WomenforWealth.com/wbsc.htm and check it out. From now through March we are focusing on creating the foundation stones of mental attitude for success, and later we are moving on to business creation methods.

Opportunity in Disguise

by Christine Harvey

In his book, ‘Think and Grow Rich,’ Napoleon Hill talks about how often we block ourselves from opportunity. Why? Because too often we expect opportunity to come in a certain way, to look a certain way. WE have predetermined what we expect.

Yet what if we did as Sue Dyer, the nationally known mediator does – ask for a miracle, and then go about our day in enthusiastic expectancy? What if we were excited about every phone that rang, every person we met to be that miracle? What if we looked at life EVERY DAY AND EVERY MOMENT as a thrill, a new adventure? How would THAT MENTAL ATTITUDE affect our vibration level and impact the people we connect with and WHAT WE MANIFEST? How would that affect our joy in life? How might that even help to draw those things we are trying to manifest to us?

Here’s what Napoleon Hill says: "When opportunity comes, it comes in a different form, a different direction than we expect. THAT IS ONE OF THE TRICKS OF OPPORTUNITY. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. PERHAPS THIS IS WHY SO MANY FAIL TO RECOGNIZE OPPORTUNITY."

Sue Dyer talks about it in a different way when she says that she expects a miracle and she’s looking for the universe to provide it in way that will lead her to the path she is supposed to be on. What if you, for just one day, decided to look at every event as a miracle. What would you get out of it?

FOCUS TIP – Just for today, try to see everything as the miracle of opportunity. Look under the surface of the event. Ask yourself, WHY could it have possibly have turned out LIKE THIS rather than what I was expecting. See if there is another channel of gold waiting for you, taking you on a different path to use your skills and talents to serve the world AND BRING YOU JOY.

Try this and let us know YOUR results.

Create a Miracle - Step 2

By Christine Harvey

"The present is where our miracles are made. Our only control is in today, not in the past." Those are the words of leading mediator and businesswoman extraordinaire, Sue Dyer. " We have to close out the past," she said, and set forth how to do just that.

In the interview we did with her, Sue told the importance of releasing yesterday and focusing on today. "The present is the only time you can live or have true Joy," she advises. "To live in the present we must not let our minds go the past." She does that as part of her morning ritual in which she sets her intentions for the day, and vows to close the curtain on the past. Years ago the near death of her infant daughter taught her to live in the present. The only way Sue could keep going and retain composure was to set the egg timer for 5 minutes, and live in those contained 5 minutes. She suggests we also set a timer, and train ourselves to stay in the now for that period.

"Use words in the present tense," she recommends. "You have no power when using past tense or thinking of the past," she says. She also recommends using tools to remind you are in the present. For some it’s music, or writing, or talking with a particular person – something you know causes you to be in the present, remembering that it’s only there that you’ll find true joy and be able to manifest.

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – DETERMINE NOW that you will stay in the present, no matter what pressing issues face you today. Today practice creating your own miracle by staying in the present more than you EVER have before. By doing this you will stay in your power! Remember Sue’s words: "The present is where our miracles are made." Review your day as you fall off to sleep tonight and consider the goodness of each event that you manifested.

Try this and let us know YOUR results.

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Expect a Miracle - Step 1

By Christine Harvey

Esther Hicks, in her book ‘The Law of Attraction,’ the movie ‘The Secret,’ and the book ‘Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting,’ all prescribe a method for attracting goodness and prosperity into our lives - that of positive expectation.

Sue Dyer, a nationally known mediator in the U.S. , shows us how to do it. She says, "I have never failed to receive a miracle when I put out the intention. And I do it every day." According to Sue, she puts out the intention for miracles every morning as she drives to her office. She intends that every person she meets, every event that happens - will lead her on the path that is intended for her in the universe. "I say, ‘Today I expect a miracle.’ Then I get excited! And I wait in positive expectation! When the phone rings, I say, ‘That’s it. I wonder who that will be!"

It all comes back to having underlying faith, says Sue. "I think to myself, ‘Let your will be done, not mine.’ That way we can let go and let God and the universe take us on a trip," she says. In the back of her mind all day, she’s thinking that she must be meeting this new person for a reason and asks herself, "What is the message I’m suppose to receive or give?"

Despite being a hard-core businesswoman, all of her work is aimed at creating more love. These are not things she shares with her client base, rather it’s the premise on which she works AND on which she let’s all her actions be guided. People often remark about something they see in Sue, and that’s the high degree of serenity and calm in which she works, despite the fact that her daily life consists of confrontation all around her.

When Sue started, most of her clients were hard-hat construction supervisors who entered negotiation deadlocked, acting as if they wanted to kill each other, then came out two days later after working with Sue, patting each other on the back as best friends! Today she leads million dollar mediations between government and industry. In one incident they were arguing for four years, and with only a few days left with $700 Million at stake, they called Sue. She brought them to agreement as the clock ticked away, and the day was saved, plus the $700 Million.

In a taped interview, Sue shares with us all her daily routine for creating this calm and certainty in life:

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Start each day with "Today I expect a miracle." Then be excited about it, like a kid at Christmas. You don’t know what will happen, but you know it will be good. Then as you go through the day, look for the reasons you might be meeting people. Raise your energy level as the phone rings and answer it with wonderment and positive expectation.

End each day like this: As you fall asleep, think of all the events of the day, the people you met, look for the goodness that came, the insights you had. When you look at your day from this perspective, you will see the miracles brought to you. The miracles will grow and grow daily as you take this focus.

(You have access to this VERY inspiring interview with Sue Dyer 24/7 from anywhere in the world by calling the recorded message line 1-641-985-5999, access code 22-88-2#. There are no sign-up or ads on this line, it’s purely a service from WomenForWealth.com)

Try this and let us know YOUR results.

Email WomenforWealth.com Co-Founder, Liz Uible : Liz@WomenforWealth.com

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Open Your Parachute

By Christine Harvey

I saw a sign as I was driving down the street today, near my home in Honolulu . It said, “Parachute for Rent: Used once, never opened, one stain.”

Somehow that struck me as the way we often live our lives. The ‘never opened’ part, I mean. WE HAVE SUCH INCREDIBLE GIFTS of talents, ideas, inspiration, goodness, and yet how much of it do we ever use? Like the parachute, our gifts are rarely opened. They’re rarely out there for the world to see these gifts or for us to enjoy.

The parachute, the sign said, had a stain. And so it is with us as humans. The stain of our lives is the fear, the self doubt - we let those block us from fully experiencing life and LIFE’S POSSIBILITIES… the possibilities waiting there to be opened like the parachute.

So how do we learn to open the parachute – to rid our selves of the self doubt – to go for the big dream? The dream of prosperity, relationships, happiness, ease of life, serenity, giving back – the endless list that filters through our heads. The first step is gratitude. Gratitude sets up a positive vibration within us.

Esther Hicks says in her book, ‘Ask and It Is Given:’ that the vibration of appreciation is the most powerful connection between the physical you and the outside world. She says that it’s not even necessary to understand the law of attraction to get results. The simple act of gratitude and appreciation, causes all things you desire to start flowing into your experience. The big dreams start to materialize. That’s VERY ENCOURAGING, isn’t it! Sometimes in life, we think everything has to be hard. We’re not even willing to try the simple things, the things that really work, because it’s outside our experience.

Tim Wood, a millionaire real estate agent from Big Bear Lake California, says the “If you don’t have a dream, your life will be about problems.” So which should we have – the big dream or problems!

Helen Keller said, “One can never consent to creep when one feels the impulse to soar!” If we consent to opening our parachute to the big dream possibility, WE WILL FEEL THE IMPULSE TO SOAR!

By focusing on your gratitudes, you’ll open your parachute to receiving. The receiving might an idea. It might be a person. It might be a vision. All leading to your big dream, or the formation of a big dream if you have none now. WHO KNOWS WHAT TALENTS YOU MIGHT HAVE HIDDEN INSIDE OF YOU? Isn’t it worth discovering? Of course it is. The world waits ofr you because you are in the chain of unfolding for us all.

Florence Littauer, internationally known speaker and author of Personality Plus, has a fabulous speech called ‘Silver Boxes and Silver Bows.’ In it she says, DON’T DIE WITH THE DREAM STILL IN YOU! So if you’re ready to soar, start today with gratitudes, gratitudes, gratitudes. Even when things ‘go wrong,’ be grateful! Who are you to know that this might not be the blessing in disguise, the hidden detour to your real purpose, the one the world needs.

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – As you go through your day today, make mental notes of EVERYTHING that happens, ‘good or bad,’ and ATTACH A GRATITUDE LABEL TO IT in your mind. Say to yourself ‘Thank you for …’ Review them as you travel home tonight, and tomorrow night and the next night. I promise you that a shift will occur – an important positive shift.

Try this and let us know YOUR results.
Email WomenforWealth.com Co-Founder, Liz Uible : Liz@WomenforWealth.com

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How to be Irresistible

By Christine Harvey

Dale Carnegie reminds us in ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People,’ that if we want to be a memorable conversationalist, we need to say little. We simply need to let the other person talk and show a genuine interest. This causes an irresistible magnetic field between the two of you. The other person feels important, and validated BY YOU. You become that person’s new hero.

I’ve had amazing results with this method. Often people come up to me years after I’ve had a conversation with them – it might have been only a four minute conversation at a conference or social event. They remind me of what an impact I made on their lives by listening. Think about it – how often in life do we ever have someone sincerely listening TO US. More often the other person is formulating their argument or their point of view.

Now put the shoe on the other foot! How often are WE thinking of the next thing WE will say, rather than BEING THERE for the other person?

If you want to create an irresistible bond between yourself and another person – be it your spouse, your child, your boss, your parent, your friend or a stranger – be still and encourage the other person to talk. Then listen!

I recently suggested this to my husband as a technique with our 3 year old granddaughter. Sometimes she gets a bit rambunctious in the evenings, with a lot of built up childhood energy. Rather than trying to get her to stop irritating him with this energy, I suggested he connect with her on a genuine listening and interest level. The results amazed us both. He told me this story. "I sat down at her eye level and in a calm quiet tone of voice, I asked her to talk with to me," he said. "I gave her my 100% of my attention and complete eye contact." She instantly quieted down, and threw her energetic enthusiasm into telling him a big story in her precious three year old fashion. "I felt really close to her, rather than irritated," he reported. That was several months ago. Now he spends a few minutes each morning connecting with her on that basis, and it BRINGS HIM GREAT JOY. Think of the bond he’s creating that will last a lifetime between them. AND of the confidence she’s building through knowing that someone cares enough to LISTEN, REALLY LISTEN.

Yesterday, I was talking to my Liz, our co-founder, and poised this question. I wonder what fantastic relationship could be created between parents and teens, if a parent would sincerely listen to the teen’s point of view. I know how easy it is as a parent to get caught up in the rush of the day. I have three kids myself. BUT I know what amazing results can be had from 3 minutes of REAL LISTENING. By listening intently and unjudgmentally to a person, WE VALIDATE THAT PERSON. And become their hero – we build a bond that lasts a lifetime. Isn’t that what we all want as parents?

3 SECOND FOCUS TIP – Think now, who is important in your life? What can you do TODAY to listen intently AND unjudgmentally to that person? Make the determination to DO just that and SEE WHAT JOY YOU EXPERIENCE! Or, try it on a stranger immediately. You’ll be amazed at HOW IRRESISTIBLE YOU BECOME to that person, be it a family member or stranger!

Try this and let us know YOUR results.